Recognizing Psychological Manipulation
Manipulation is a form of abuse that may go unrecognized. Abuse, whether it is emotional, sexual or physical, is a traumatic experience. This type of abuse is linked to gender based violence.There is an increased level of gender based violence in Liberia is likely to result to marital rape, suffering to women, deprivation of liberty, threats of violence – leading to physical harm such as battering, psychological harm and gender inequality.These risk factors may be a tough pill to swallow, however it must be made known.We Liberians have the tendency to overlook issues in our society. Somehow we think the problem will solve itself, or we say, “It is the next man’s problem”. If we do not take a stand now, the next generation will ultimately fall prey to abuse or continue the cycle of abuse. It is within our power to address the matter, to render support and advice to our neighbors – to educate both women and men within our communities.The purpose of this article is to recognize the signs of abuse, what it involves, how to safely move on, how to manage the situation and key ways to handle a manipulative person.After conducting research on the subject matter, I discovered that most abusers gain power and control over their victims by using various manipulative tactics.Psychological manipulation is an attempt to indirectly influence the behavior and actions of someone else through mental distortion and emotional exploitation and to seize power, control, benefits and privileges of a victim. The manipulator can do so by detecting a weakness and consequently using that weakness against their victim.CHARACTERISTICS OF A MANIPULATOR* The manipulator will exploit your weaknesses and make you feel inadequate. You may blame yourself for not meeting their needs. Being manipulated to feel bad about yourself, will lead you to eventually surrender your power and rights.* Manipulators may be charismatic and often have a hypnotic hold over others.* Some manipulators go from being highly polite to one individual and completely rude to another – or totally helpless one moment and aggressive the next. The manipulator will frequently play the victim.* A psychological manipulator is also a bully and will try to intimidate, verbally abuse and humiliate their victim.* Manipulative people use guilt, shame, lies and trickery to get what they want. They can never admit to being in the wrong.HANDLING A MANIPULATIVE PERSON* Prioritise your work and social life* Keep your distance and create a healthy lifestyle* You have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty. Psychological manipulators will make requests or outrageous demands to make you go out of your way to meet their needs. Use time to your advantage by saying, “I will think about it”. Some may demand immediately action or response. Remember you have a right to be respected. Say NO.* When dealing with verbal abuse, confront the abuser with a friend or relative. Create your boundary, be confident in your response to the abuse and down play their insults.* Express your feelings, opinions and wants.LEAVING AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP* Talk to a trusted person about the violence. * Change your daily routine, contact number and work route or hours (if possible).* Keep a journal of all violent incidences, noting the dates, events and threats made.* Identify a safe place to stay.* Set money aside. Ask a friend or family member to keep hold of the money.* Life is like a game of chess. To win you have to make a move. Knowing which move to make comes with INSIGHT and knowledge, and by learning the lessons that are accumulated along the way.“We become each and every piece within the game called life!” – Allan RufusLiberian women have a natural ability to endure trying circumstances. We also possess great inner strength to overcome challenges.Knowledge along with awareness is a powerful tool; it is most useful in the handling of potential abusers and manipulative individuals. It promotes social change and will effectively decrease the number of cases being reported.Educating women on the main categories of abuse will encourage them to seek help; they will gain strength and courage in the process; it will empower them to help other women living with abuse .Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
Berbice Expo showcases local businesses
The 14th Berbice Expo and Trade Fair was declared opened at the Albion Sports Complex on Friday evening. The four-day event, which is being promoted by the Central Corentyne Chamber of Commerce, ends on Monday and has more than 100 exhibits. ‘Advancing Economic Progress through Professional Standards and Entrepreneurship’ is the theme for this year’s Expo which has as its objective, the enhancement of economic growth for Berbice.Business Minister Dominic Gaskin, in declaring the Expo open, said over the next 15 years, Guyana’s economic transformation will be guided by the Green State Development Strategy, which will be the blueprint for inclusive economic and social growth.A key objective of the Green State Development Strategy is to reorient and diversify Guyana’s economy, reducing reliance on traditional sectors and opening up new sustainable income and investment opportunities.He added that as Guyana develops, and new economic activities emerge, businesses must adapt to a new economic reality.“Local businesses must build capacity to be competitive in an environment that will see increased competition from both local and foreign companies. This requires emphasis on improvement of business processes, adoption of industry best practices, transparency and accountability, and socially and environmentally responsible behaviour, among others.”Gaskin said the petroleum sector will drive rapid growth while the Green State Development Strategy will channel this growth across all sectors of Guyana’s economy. Businesses must therefore position itself to maximise opportunities that will arise, not only from direct participation in the petroleum sector, but from spinoff demand in many other sectors that will follow.Meanwhile, President of the Central Corentyne Chamber of Commerce, Poonai Bhigroog, also speaking at the opening, noted that more respect needs to be given to the region’s farmers.Noting that Region Six (East Berbice-Corentyne) is an agriculture-based region, Poonai said there is need to raise standards in how agriculture is practiced so that farmers can make maximum use of technology to improve and increase productivity.The Chamber President added that with the closure of several sugar estates, the ripple effects are far and wide. He said the fishing industry continues to be a high risk one as a result of many acts of piracy committed over the years; retail business, market vendors and other sectors are seeing a decline in sales causing several businesses to either close their doors or reduce staffing.“As Guyana becomes an emerging oil and gas producer, several measures will have to be put in place to safeguard and develop new business strategies to preserve our local businesses. Opportunities will abound, but to capitalise on these opportunities, businesses will have to focus on capacity building and improve on developing our work force to reach higher standards. Entrepreneurs will have to start to invest with confidence in our country’s growing economy, more jobs will be created, and disposable income will increase,” the Chamber President said.